Selfish lover; would you care?

[josephstrauss65]

in sex if she doesnt suck your cock, lick your anus, doesnt give her arsehole to use your cock on it and doesnt drink and enjoy the taste of sperm kick her off....

[Zickooo]

I am confused
she doesn't suck your cock only? or she doesn't care about you at all?
maybe she doesn't want to suck for some reason but not being selfish
because if she is selfish and only cares about herself then how is the sex good? i always thought that sex can be good when the other person cares about you and does the right things to turn you on etc...
for me i wouldn't accept it, i don't like to not get everything i want even if the sex is good i would still be mad at not getting blowjobs and probably would break up with a girl like that.

[okposo21]

I guess I just don't view blowjobs as such an integral part of sex life as you guys do.

Don't get me wrong, I love them. If I was hooking up with some random girl on a one night stand, I'd definitely prefer an awesome BJ to the awkwardness of first-time sex.

But penetration with my girl feels 10x better than any BJ I've ever received. And when she cums, her muscles tighten and it clamps even tighter. She has rolling orgasms, so I last as long as I can for both of us, which makes the end result fucking amazing when I finally blow.

Are we talking about BJs as foreplay before sex? I get hard just fooling around with her, would prefer to last longer inside of her than to waste "energy" on the BJ.

Or are we talking about BJs to completion? Are awesome, obviously. But I vastly prefer sex. And it isn't like I've ever gone down on her and then she's done, 100% of the time that's a lead in to sex.

Our sex lives are very much in line. Clearly I screwed up this hypothetical/poll. A better one would have been...

Say a girl you are with LOVES giving blowjobs. She sucks your dick not because she is concerned with you getting off, but because SHE loves the act of getting a dick off. Meanwhile, you are getting an awesome BJ and the end result is the same (she's into it, you get what you want). Would it matter that she was doing it selfishly instead of for you?

That's kind of the situation we are in here. Both of us are having near optimal (for us) sex, I just happen to think she's more focused on her orgasm than mine. I'm not begging for BJs and being told to go fuck myself or anything.

[josephstrauss65]

just force her to lick your dick and your anus or surprise her when you are about to cum quickly move and cum in her face, if she gets mad apologize and blame the stamina and exciting...if she digs it just do it all the time until you civilized her