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okposo21 · 15th November 2016, 22:49

After almost three years of being with the same girl, it finally dawned on me; she's pretty selfish when it comes to sex.

It's really all about her getting off. Over and over. When she does (and she always does), she's content. There is no strong desire to make me cum or anything.

She never goes down on me, I go down on her all the time. This is actually fine with me; I LOVE doing it to her, and our sex feels so damn good I don't need any warm-up. Just illustrating overall point.

So the kicker is; the sex is fantastic. I love her body. Being inside of her feels way better than any girl I've ever been with. I always get off, too. And the sex is frequent; we both always want it, so every time we are together, we have it. Often multiple rounds.

So my question is, if you were getting great sex on the regular, but knew you were with a girl that was really just looking out for No. 1 in this department... would you care? I lean no for myself, but could make a case either way.

Blue boats · 15th November 2016, 22:59

It would bother me, personally. Just because I think it would probably be an indication of an unbalanced relationship. If someone is like that in the bedroom they probably also show this kind of attitude outside of it.

Reclaimed - P01 · 15th November 2016, 23:01

If you don't care about having a future with her, then this question is pointless. Have your great sex and who cares if she cares about you. Otherwise, it's a pretty good indication that things will be shit down the road.

Just my opinion.

okposo21 · 15th November 2016, 23:11

The last two posts make plenty of sense. And she does indeed have some selfish qualities outside of the bedroom.

One distinction I'd make, and it may seem petty but I don't believe that it is, is that her selfishness is more the product of her kind of just being one-track minded than it is a conscious effort to be selfish.

Every time I've ever asked her to do something or mentioned that something is important to me, she's always come through for me. And not in that begrudging way, but in an "oh, I understand how you feel now, I care." You could argue "she shouldn't have to be told" or whatever, and that's reasonable. Just pointing out that I find the selfish-but-not-aware-they-are-selfish less evil than the selfish-know-it-and-dont-care people.

celebfan2006 · 16th November 2016, 02:04

People who are selfish in bed are generally selfish in other areas as well. When she finds someone else who is more to her liking (or pleasure) your relationship will be over. Sorry, but there it is.

iLikeBigButtz · 16th November 2016, 16:41

Won't Suck Dick = Instant Deal Breaker

Personally I would have kicked her to the kerb straight away. But if you are more or less happy with things as they are (which you seem to be) then you might as well stick with it.

alexora · 16th November 2016, 21:02

The main issue here is: do you enjoy the sexual relationship you have with your partner?

If yes, nothing else matters, but if not, then there is a problem.

The nature of what may constitute a problem varies from person to person:

I, for example, agree with ILBB on the fact that no blowjobs are a deal breaker, but there are some people who have a masochistic tendency to enjoy pleasure denial...

Whatever the problem, one should be allowed to discuss it with their partner. If no satisfactory resolution takes place, then it might well be time to move on.

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RedFox · 16th November 2016, 21:06

Like most guys I'm happy to get any, but a selfish lover is a really bad sign.

okposo21 · 17th November 2016, 02:57

So much for a light-hearted poll

Can't say I blame you guys, definitely sounds awful when I re-read the original post. I'd be chiming in with the exact same responses. Fortunately she's a little more complex and has a bit more depth than a 200-word post!

Respect the no BJ's / no relationship stance. BJs are fucking awesome. The sex is so good that I never think to miss the BJs when she's around, though when she's not I certainly fantasize about some of the givers of yesteryear.

Vile · 17th November 2016, 22:08

Hi, I'll tell you from experience (being with the same girl more than 10 years) that the sex will come to be less important the longer you're with her. You should focus on other aspects of her personality. If she's as selfish outside of the bedroom as she is inside, there may be bigger issues.

If the sex is great, fine, but that's not enough to sustain a relationship. I wouldn't be with a girl who doesn't suck my dick because that's important to me. If it's not a big deal to you that's a different story.

My honest opinion, it sounds like you're having fun with her sexually despite her selfish behavior. So stay with her for now. But if you want a future with her, sit down and talk to her about these things. Then see if she makes improvements in these areas. Otherwise I don't think she's worth trying to build a future around.

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15th November 2016, 22:49	#1
okposo21 Registered User Addicted Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 211 Thanks: 232 Thanked 524 Times in 149 Posts	Selfish lover; would you care? After almost three years of being with the same girl, it finally dawned on me; she's pretty selfish when it comes to sex. It's really all about her getting off. Over and over. When she does (and she always does), she's content. There is no strong desire to make me cum or anything. She never goes down on me, I go down on her all the time. This is actually fine with me; I LOVE doing it to her, and our sex feels so damn good I don't need any warm-up. Just illustrating overall point. So the kicker is; the sex is fantastic. I love her body. Being inside of her feels way better than any girl I've ever been with. I always get off, too. And the sex is frequent; we both always want it, so every time we are together, we have it. Often multiple rounds. So my question is, if you were getting great sex on the regular, but knew you were with a girl that was really just looking out for No. 1 in this department... would you care? I lean no for myself, but could make a case either way.

15th November 2016, 23:11	#4
okposo21 Registered User Addicted Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 211 Thanks: 232 Thanked 524 Times in 149 Posts	The last two posts make plenty of sense. And she does indeed have some selfish qualities outside of the bedroom. One distinction I'd make, and it may seem petty but I don't believe that it is, is that her selfishness is more the product of her kind of just being one-track minded than it is a conscious effort to be selfish. Every time I've ever asked her to do something or mentioned that something is important to me, she's always come through for me. And not in that begrudging way, but in an "oh, I understand how you feel now, I care." You could argue "she shouldn't have to be told" or whatever, and that's reasonable. Just pointing out that I find the selfish-but-not-aware-they-are-selfish less evil than the selfish-know-it-and-dont-care people. Last edited by okposo21; 15th November 2016 at 23:12.

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15th November 2016, 22:59	#2
Blue boats Registered User Addicted Join Date: Jul 2016 Location: Europe Posts: 679 Thanks: 8,524 Thanked 1,438 Times in 542 Posts	It would bother me, personally. Just because I think it would probably be an indication of an unbalanced relationship. If someone is like that in the bedroom they probably also show this kind of attitude outside of it.

15th November 2016, 23:01	#3
Reclaimed - P01 Registered User Addicted Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 743 Thanks: 9,462 Thanked 2,710 Times in 663 Posts	If you don't care about having a future with her, then this question is pointless. Have your great sex and who cares if she cares about you. Otherwise, it's a pretty good indication that things will be shit down the road. Just my opinion.

16th November 2016, 02:04	#5
celebfan2006 Registered User Forum Lord Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,557 Thanks: 1,386 Thanked 3,616 Times in 1,276 Posts	People who are selfish in bed are generally selfish in other areas as well. When she finds someone else who is more to her liking (or pleasure) your relationship will be over. Sorry, but there it is.

16th November 2016, 21:06	#8
RedFox Registered User Addicted Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 674 Thanks: 5,227 Thanked 1,722 Times in 520 Posts	Like most guys I'm happy to get any, but a selfish lover is a really bad sign.

17th November 2016, 02:57	#9
okposo21 Registered User Addicted Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 211 Thanks: 232 Thanked 524 Times in 149 Posts	So much for a light-hearted poll Can't say I blame you guys, definitely sounds awful when I re-read the original post. I'd be chiming in with the exact same responses. Fortunately she's a little more complex and has a bit more depth than a 200-word post! Respect the no BJ's / no relationship stance. BJs are fucking awesome. The sex is so good that I never think to miss the BJs when she's around, though when she's not I certainly fantasize about some of the givers of yesteryear.

17th November 2016, 22:08	#10
Vile Registered User Addicted Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 825 Thanks: 1,544 Thanked 2,619 Times in 750 Posts	Hi, I'll tell you from experience (being with the same girl more than 10 years) that the sex will come to be less important the longer you're with her. You should focus on other aspects of her personality. If she's as selfish outside of the bedroom as she is inside, there may be bigger issues. If the sex is great, fine, but that's not enough to sustain a relationship. I wouldn't be with a girl who doesn't suck my dick because that's important to me. If it's not a big deal to you that's a different story. My honest opinion, it sounds like you're having fun with her sexually despite her selfish behavior. So stay with her for now. But if you want a future with her, sit down and talk to her about these things. Then see if she makes improvements in these areas. Otherwise I don't think she's worth trying to build a future around.