Beginner Sex Guide Videos?

[Reclaimed - P01]

Reading it again I can see how it sounds like that. I meant more though that he should focus on the time with her and not just losing his virginity. Not necessarily focusing on her cumming, but on her having a good time regardless of what happens.

[thruster315]

Originally Posted by Curvy_Kate

Oh lordy, I just had this talk with a 21-old kid in chatroom (don't ask...). Twenty-one. A virgin. He has learnt about sex from internet porn and has a head full of the circus tricks and positions you see on videos which don't do anything to anyone except for the person jerking off in front of their monitor. Has no concept of what sex is emotionally, what is its purpose (except for the obvious) but sees it as something like a video game, where you score points and climb levels. A short talk revealed this was a rather shy, lonely kid, who has troubles even talking to girls without blushing and yet porn tells him that sex is all about humiliating a girl and that anal sex is the absolute minimum to be expected (not saying there's something wrong with anal, only that there is in such attitude). You hear that that's how kids these days are, but I honestly didn't imagine such tragic lack of imagination... On the other hand, how would they know the difference if that's all they know? I mean, I saw porn when I was a kid, but we didn't have easy access to it, so I still learnt about sex mostly through personal experience (the sex-ed books aside).
When you start having sex, start with the basics, you need to learn what feels good and what is meh, what you feel comfortable with, what she's comfortable with, how your body reacts... As a female, I can tell you that your girl is probably even more nervous and that it's not gonna matter whether you're experienced or not. Try to relax and act naturally rather than trying to impress her - that will relax her also and she'll feel safer in the new situation and with you, that's really important. Take your time, as everyone else said. It's gonna be clumsy and awkward, yeah, but you'll remember it tenderly. Don't be tempted to get Dutch courage, alcohol or drugs will ruin your experience. It'll be OK, humans have been doing this for centuries.

Great suggestions here. I don't think I was emotionally up it sex the first time either. I thought it was just going to be the act itself, but then realized that there's another human being across from you fraught with emotions too. Be honest with oneself. No one's going to be great the first time out of the gate, but I really think that the emotional content of having sex does need to be brought up. And that's just something porn just doesn't convey on many levels.

[Coffee & Porn]

I think we have the makings of a new thread here Your first experience

[thruster315]

Originally Posted by startnover

I think we have the makings of a new thread here Your first experience

It'll be filled with horrible stories of how one couldn't get it up, shot the wad too early, how the condom broke, blue balls, got laughed at, got busted by parents, got busted by the cops, etc., etc..

Seriously I have never ever heard of anyone's first sexual experience being a stellar one. At best it was awkward with lots of fumbling around.

It just brings to mind that Rodney Dangerfield joke too- "The first time I had sex I was afraid. I was all alone"

[Curvy_Kate]

Originally Posted by thruster315

Seriously I have never ever heard of anyone's first sexual experience being a stellar one. At best it was awkward with lots of fumbling around.

Luckily, it's like riding the bike: lots of frustration and battle bruises at first, but becomes a second nature eventually and you can just enjoy the ride.

[recondo]

Don't worry about it. You get to fuck them, so you win already. You'll learn your own moves in your own way.

[Coffee & Porn]

Originally Posted by thruster315

It'll be filled with horrible stories of how one couldn't get it up, shot the wad too early, how the condom broke, blue balls, got laughed at, got busted by parents, got busted by the cops, etc., etc..

You just described almost everything which happened to me. I was just seeing if there was an audience for something like this.

[Geiroth]

Originally Posted by startnover

You just described almost everything which happened to me. I was just seeing if there was an audience for something like this.

Feel free to make such a thread, but let's not hijack this one. I'm still curious to hear what the original poster thinks of the replies he's got.

[thesandman]

Nina Hartley has made a pretty interesting video about performing oral sex on a woman. Just sayin'

[Wallingford]

Originally Posted by thesandman

Nina Hartley has made a pretty interesting video about performing oral sex on a woman. Just sayin'

Speaking of oral sex on a woman, make sure you do that. And don't worry about not getting it up. As soon as your brain figures out your face is between a girl's legs for the first time, you'll be up.


And forget the Sam Kinison ABCs, and the Nina Hartley video. You want to learn how to make oral sex on a woman? Take a large plastic tumbler, fill it half full with fruit loops. Pour them toward your mouth and using your tongue and top lip only, sort and eat only one color. You will have to flip the other colors out of your way to accomplish this. Then pick another color and repeat the process. Pretty soon, you will have a nimble tongue and top lip. And for all your friends will know, you just like eating fruit loops out of an oversized cup.

The rest, you've already had good advice.