Meeting new people in your 30s...how?

[sharon]

Many different ways to meet new people. Another is to go to a mall and talk to people.

[k1Hr0h]

Consider a few things up front, should they not be very clear:

First and foremost, it's about physical sexual attractiveness. If you are not physically / sexually attractive to a woman, she won't be interested in you as a possible partner. Ofc, you could still be "the best of friends", but in terms of an actual sexual relationship, this will get you nowhere. Never.(!)
Don't believe all the BS you can watch in the media or hear from other people, telling you a woman will eventually sleep with you / love you if you have lots of money or status. This may count for certain women with certain aims, but generally speaking, just no.
The younger the woman, the more she will look for pure physical attractiveness (ofc there are - a few - exceptions) first, especially if you are an older guy.
As a male, it's the same vice versa, I'd say, so it's fair enough.

Second, in my experience, dating highly depends on people's cultural background. If you have been educated to be secluded and reversed, try online dating. It really isn't a bad choice, and many people find each other this way nowadays. The biggest challenge here is finding the right app with the "right" clientele. Your aim here would actually be to find a person who has been educated in the same way as you, meaning she would need to be secluded and reversed, and you should search for the same type of person as you are, at least in a certain sense, so eventually, you should frequent the same places you yourself would search for somebody. Anything else will lead to frustation and separation in the long run. Of course, as with everything else, there might be the occasional exception. People are individuals. Or try a library, for example.
If you have been educated to be an open person, you will probably be more comfortable just talking to someone in a mall or a bar.

Just my two cents.

[sordi88]

Hey everyone.
Sorry for bumping the thread after so long, but I wanted to thank you all for your great contributions.
Unfortunately the situation has only gotten worse in the last 10 months, so much that I started to develop this pervese tendency of including the element of me being a loser inside my sexual fantasies...a very creepy thing.
Also my sexual frustratuion has never been higher.
Anyway let's see...maybe the miracle will happen in 2023, or 2024, or 2025, or 2026, or 2027 or 2028...yes, definitely 2028, i can feel it!
Assuming my girfliend won't be a VR avatar.

[Eurynomos]

The real deal is that a post pandemic issues reflected that online dating became more reliable than 15 or 20 years ago.

Also, nowadays you will not be limited by your home city man, nowadays I can't wait to see what will happen after the Coldest Winter or if WW3 became reality and survive, we will travel teleporting.

I think marriage and divorce rate wil be balanced again after 2023 or 2024 and also depending in the things you want to have with a couple.

[The Old Goat]

Blade Runner 2049 makes it not look so bad. One of the only good things about the film actually. Have you wondered why you feel this way bud? Dont get too hung up on the expanding sexual preferences, I've watched all sorts the last 2-3 years that I never expected to find appealing. Its only a dream, a fantasy explored with no consequence.

Try some S/M maybe?

[Don-Juan]

Originally Posted by The Old Goat

Blade Runner 2049 makes it not look so bad. One of the only good things about the film actually. Have you wondered why you feel this way bud? Dont get too hung up on the expanding sexual preferences, I've watched all sorts the last 2-3 years that I never expected to find appealing. Its only a dream, a fantasy explored with no consequence.

Try some S/M maybe?

Best thing about Blade Runner 2049 is the holographic Ana de Armas personal assistant that I want right now! Screw human contact if one could have that!