What Pisses You Off?

[Reclaimed925]

Originally Posted by thruster315

Okay, it seems as though my outrage wasn't too far off the beaten path.

I also noticed they took a few pics of the aunt in the casket too. I know the selfie thing is an absolute no-no, but how do you folks feel about just a pic of the deceased?

I was pretty uncomfortable with that as well.

I know that a lot of people have cell phones/ cameras nowadays but does one have to capture every bit of minutia in life? Again, I didn't know the lady- but I thought that the moment of her in the casket should be the last mental image that a family should have with her. It doesn't need to be recorded. And as skilled as some morticians are- they never get the person's alive likeness down pat. Why are these dopes documenting this???

I'm baffled by it! If it's a generational thing,I wish someone a lot younger than myself would post that it's the norm nowadays.I'm curious if it's isolated,or the new normal!!

[Reclaimed_A1]

When I hear someone say that's my baby mama. That's just such a disrespectful way to refer to the mother of your child.

[rbn]

Originally Posted by Doc925

I'm baffled by it! If it's a generational thing,I wish someone a lot younger than myself would post that it's the norm nowadays.I'm curious if it's isolated,or the new normal!!

I doubt that I'm much younger than you but bereavement is very personal. A funeral is a celebration of the life the person lived. It doesn't have to be cold and gray. I plan to have a pre-need setup with an open bar and loud music! Pictures will be allowed

I have not taken pictures at a funeral myself. The memory of seeing my deceased loved one is enough for me. Desensitization of such taboos doesn't seem too far out of hand. Though I would not do it personally, we all grieve differently.

I can see this this type of action in two respects.
1. They loved the person a lot and want to keep the last look.
2. They hated the person a lot and will laugh at their dead body.

It could go either way ... they could be part of The Hangover generation ...

[Reclaimed925]

Originally Posted by rbn

I doubt that I'm much younger than you but bereavement is very personal. A funeral is a celebration of the life the person lived. It doesn't have to be cold and gray. I plan to have a pre-need setup with an open bar and loud music! Pictures will be allowed

I have not taken pictures at a funeral myself. The memory of seeing my deceased loved one is enough for me. Desensitization of such taboos doesn't seem too far out of hand. Though I would not do it personally, we all grieve differently.

I can see this this type of action in two respects.
1. They loved the person a lot and want to keep the last look.
2. They hated the person a lot and will laugh at their dead body.

It could go either way ... they could be part of The Hangover generation ...

Thanks for the feedback.I guess there are different ways to look at it.And different ways to behave.To each their own!!

[Namcot]

I think if one just want to take a photo of the deceased at an open casket viewing, that's okay but do it quietly and quickly and without any big fanfare.

But taking a selfie with a big smile and with the deceased in the same photo, that's just a no no and it's disrespectful and tasteless and crass.

[Reclaimed08]

Originally Posted by alex1

When I hear someone say that's my baby mama. That's just such a disrespectful way to refer to the mother of your child.

Disrespectful or nonsensical slang always pisses me off.

Just before I graduated high school in 2002 'tight' was just catching on as the word for 'cool' as well as fat (spelled phat).

There's another one now I think it's 'mans' and I believe it refers to a girl getting a boyfriend, or something.

[thruster315]

Originally Posted by Namcot

I think if one just want to take a photo of the deceased at an open casket viewing, that's okay but do it quietly and quickly and without any big fanfare.

But taking a selfie with a big smile and with the deceased in the same photo, that's just a no no and it's disrespectful and tasteless and crass.

Nope. I just saw it on their Facebook page. And of course they tagged the deceased person too. Classless in my opinion as the person can no longer un-tag themselves. And how does that make the rest of the family feel?

I get it as you might want to have this pic for one's personal remembrances and all- but why take it so public? Have your memories and cherish them but no need to imprint your thumbprint over the grieving family by posting it on the deceased person's Facebook page.

[Namcot]

Am I the only one who has experienced this?

I am sure I am not the only one.

These 18-20 something generation nowadays.

You can only ask one question at a time.

If you ask more than one question in the same sentence and/or in the same paragraph in the same text/email/sms, you will only get the answer to one of them - if you are lucky.

Then it will take several more text/email/sms back and forth over a long perido of time because they don't answer you promptly, sometimes for hours after you sent the last text/email/sms, before you get all your questions answered.

[SynchroDub]

Originally Posted by Namcot

I think if one just want to take a photo of the deceased at an open casket viewing, that's okay but do it quietly and quickly and without any big fanfare.

But taking a selfie with a big smile and with the deceased in the same photo, that's just a no no and it's disrespectful and tasteless and crass.

My father took a photo of my grandpa resting in his casket. But he only did it for me, because I couldn't be there at the funeral.
However, I do still have that picture, along with many others of my grandparents. But I rarely even watch it.
I always prefer to remember people that left this world happily, and remembering them for who they were, in this life, and what they have done.

For the rest, I totally agree with thruster315. That's definitely something very silly and disrespectful to do. No different than taking a wee or spit on someone's grave, definitely.

[thruster315]

Originally Posted by SynchroDub

My father took a photo of my grandpa resting in his casket. But he only did it for me, because I couldn't be there at the funeral.
However, I do still have that picture, along with many others of my grandparents. But I rarely even watch it.
I always prefer to remember people that left this world happily, and remembering them for who they were, in this life, and what they have done.

For the rest, I totally agree with thruster315. That's definitely something very silly and disrespectful to do. No different than taking a wee or spit on someone's grave, definitely.

That pic was for you and only you- and only if you ever want to go back to that moment. It wasn't plastered for all to see.