body count and sluts

[Johnny Cage]

So I have noticed a whole obsession, especially among younger men, with body counts.
Specifically the number of prior sexual partners a girl had.

It's something quite a bit puzzling for me.
I have always preferred girls with a decent amount of sexual experience, meaning that they are comfortable in bed and adventurous enough to do most sex acts. Why would I want to fuck a girl who has only been with one or two guys and is too prudish to move out of her comfort zone?
Given the choice, I'd totally choose a filthy slut who has 101 ways to get a guy off.
The obsession with your partner having a low body count seems very self-defeating if you want to have good sex.

[Split on Aces]

For me it's a huge turn on if she had many partners and was previously a slut. Given my love for interracial porn it's even more of a turn on if she has fucked black guys.

[uglybob]

You are mistaken. They only care about body counts when it comes to long term partners. Few men will turn down an available women unless they display obvious signs of stds.

[Kassidiaris]

In my opinion it's a result of deep insecurity. Some guys are afraid that if a woman has many others to compare them to, they might come up short (in more ways than one). Then there are some guys who have a really intense "possessiveness" mania who want to feel that a woman "belongs" to them. Really creepy if you ask me.

Sex, just like many things in life, is a skill you can be good, poor or exceptional at. The only way to become a good sexual partner, is to have lots of sex. And I don't mean only in quantity, but to engage in various sexual acts, and yes, with different people.

[Bigfan99]

I personally don't mind marrying or dating a slut or a former slut as long as she meets my other standards for being a partner and we are compatible. That being said I don't have any desires or fantasies of her fucking other men. A high body count doesn't necessarily bother me. I rather be with a woman who likes having sex and is comfortable with it than someone who is uptight and prude about sex and I'm not even crazy into sex like that.

[reclaimer]

Two things to keep in mind:
Body counts like most things depend on the context, particularly age.

If someone is 22 and has had 100 partners, that means they've potentially had sex with a new person every two weeks since they've been legal. That's generally not the behavior of someone who is capable of having a long-term relationship. If a woman is 40 and has had 100 partners, that's on average 4.5 partners a year since they've been legal. Unless most of those have been recent, that's not really that meaningful.

The sum of a person's sexual partners is not directly related to how much sex a person has had. People in long term relationships (generally) have more sex than people who are not. More partners might give someone a broader range of experience, but most people suck at sex and sex with strangers is rarely as satisfying as sex with a longer-term partner.

[Johnny Cage]

Originally Posted by uglybob

You are mistaken. They only care about body counts when it comes to long term partners. Few men will turn down an available women unless they display obvious signs of stds.

To me STDs are a whole different matter. You could have a woman who has only ever had one sexual partner who has an STD and one who has fucked fifty different dudes and hasn't.

And in terms of a long-term partner, the same logic still applies: I'd prefer someone who is good at sex.

[Johnny Cage]

Originally Posted by Kassidiaris

Sex, just like many things in life, is a skill you can be good, poor or exceptional at. The only way to become a good sexual partner, is to have lots of sex. And I don't mean only in quantity, but to engage in various sexual acts, and yes, with different people.

This is my point. Avoiding women who have had lots of sex essentially also means avoiding women who are good at it and are not likely to have many hang-ups about it.

[Johnny Cage]

Originally Posted by reclaimer

Two things to keep in mind:
Body counts like most things depend on the context, particularly age.

If someone is 22 and has had 100 partners, that means they've potentially had sex with a new person every two weeks since they've been legal. That's generally not the behavior of someone who is capable of having a long-term relationship. If a woman is 40 and has had 100 partners, that's on average 4.5 partners a year since they've been legal. Unless most of those have been recent, that's not really that meaningful.

The sum of a person's sexual partners is not directly related to how much sex a person has had. People in long term relationships (generally) have more sex than people who are not. More partners might give someone a broader range of experience, but most people suck at sex and sex with strangers is rarely as satisfying as sex with a longer-term partner.

100 at 22 is admittedly a lot, but I have seen guys balking at a body count of just 20 as well.
And whilst 100 is at the higher end of the scale, even if she only became sexually active at say 18, that's still only 25 guys a year or like two different guys a month, give or take. If you are in the super-casual Tinder game, like a lot of young folks are, it's probably not too hard to get close to that number.