^^^^^ This is not meant to be mean-spirited or anything else other than an observation, not the best resume to be giving dating advice hun. You appear to be have become somewhat bitter over the course of the last year or two and it shows in your posting style of late which is unfortunate because you were a really decent guy once upon a time, something changed. Do not take offense to this but use it as a life lesson because if you're going to post in this thread you leave yourself open to response that might not always go your way.
As for the OP, stay away from women in their 30s they're all weirdos lol, (I will be 38 in a few short months so I know)
Plus we reach our sexual peak in our late thirties and early forties so you better have an A game. But then again my guy is nearing his mid-twenties and is a professional athlete so what do I know LOL
Unfortunately for you shy and paranoid are not the most attractive qualities in a man, dig deep for your sense of humour women love a man with a good sense of humour, you know who likes a sense of humour in a man, a woman in her early forties that's where you should be focussing your attention unless it's marriage that you seek but even then. Not to mention that women in their forties are a lot less discerning than women in their 30s as a general rule, but head games and neediness are definite turn offs for any woman regardless of age. The one complaint I hear constantly from women friends of mine that are in their forties is that men their own age are set in their ways and that's what they got away from originally when their marriage is or relationships dissolved. That's not to say that there aren't a lot of really great guys in their forties so don't take the wrong message from this
Alexora makes a good point that your circle of friends definitely is a major consideration and can determine whether you fail or succeed because that woman will not only be dating you but your friends as well figuratively of course
Start slow change one thing about yourself that you're not happy with and work from there eventually all the pieces will fall into place hun and you will find that special someone, also sometimes the best things happen when you're not looking for them they just come to you so don't try too hard just let it happen. Trying too hard will show right through you believe me we are good at seeing right through men straight to their heart